At the corner of Wilson and Harding ways, a memorial for Matthew Bosa wraps around a street signal pole. Every week since her 29-year-old son was killed by gunfire at the same intersection in mid-November, Adelaida McCarty has tended to the tribute of her only boy.
Earlier this week, she was horrified to see the family photos she taped to the pole and the pictures Bosa’s 7-year-old son drew for his late father were gone.
Somebody had desecrated the memorial in front of the O’Reilly Auto Parts and thrown the irreplacable family mementos into the back of a pickup belonging to the store.
An employee at the store, who did not give his name but appeared to be a man in his late-20s, said he saw the items in the back of his work truck Tuesday morning. Unsure of who put them there or why, he said he took the two armloads of pictures and letters and threw them in a Dumpster.
The contents of that trash container have since been trucked to a landfill in the county.
This isn’t to disparage the auto store worker. He needs that truck to ship orders to customers and wasn’t aware of the sentimental value of the items callously tossed into its bed.
It’s more about a sense of disgust about someone ruining a memorial. Look, I’m sure there may have been some people who weren’t necessarily fond of Bosa, but ruining his memorial isn’t sticking it to him.
It is, however, putting his mother and other relatives through Hell.
”I don’t know how someone could be so evil,” McCarty said.
I drive by memorials multiple times a day and — before this — had not encountered one that was disrespected. Some have been brutalized by the elements, sure, but none have been intentionally destroyed.
Previously, the worst I’d seen is when a tagger honors another by sketching “RIP” next to the nickname of the deceased and a rival tagger paints over it with a crude remark.
I didn’t have my camera when I went out to Bosa’s memorial today, but McCarty is emailing me some photos and I’ll post them when they become available.
Beaten but not broken, McCarty returned Thursday night to put new rememberances of her son. She said she had no idea who could be responsible but isn’t going to let them have the last word.