I spoke with a social worker recently about foster care and the details of her job. I certainly admire her strength in dealing with some of the crazy situations she has faced in her job.
I couldn’t believe it when she told me that some people who chose to foster — not even the real parents — had not given the children in their care such basic things as regular baths or even birthdays. It was only later that she had heard from a former foster child that he had never celebrated his birthday while he was living with his foster family, and he didn’t think to tell anyone about some of the neglect he felt because the home was stable and better than anywhere else he had lived. He had come to terms with the fact that they had treated him more like a roommate instead of family.
I was horrified. I cried.
There’s no reason for that kind of behavior – especially from a family that knows how rough these kids have had it and are supposedly offering their home to help nurture these kids.
I’ve never understood how anyone could be so cruel, unthinking and selfish toward a child. No one can control where they’re born and no one should be punished for their imperfect circumstances.
Foster-adoption could be one of the most socially conscious acts anyone can do. Everyone deserves to be loved.
(Adding to this list of famous people who have been adopted: Superman, Babe Ruth and actress Kristin Chenoweth)